Aggression is a Sign That Your Child is Frightened on The Inside.

To reduce the fear, you must calm the brain.

As children grow, their outward expression of frustration becomes more controlled because their brain has integrated. With maturity, they become capable of holding their tears inside and using words to express their feelings. They no longer need to physically act out or cry in response to every frustration in order to move through it.

Your child's temperament also plays a big part on how they react to big feelings. You may have a:

Strong-natured explosive child,

a short-fused Social Nature,

a victimised Sensitive Nature, or

an imploding Structured Nature . 👉 Learn more about the Four Natures here

Whatever their nature, every child can benefit from anger management practice, taught by a calm, loving adult.

So, it starts with us.

As parents, we must manage our own emotions in the face of theirs.

While it’s natural for our frustration to rise when we see our children struggle, it’s up to us to stay grounded.

It isn’t easy, but we must dig deep and rise to the occasion when our children need us most. Many parents are still a work in progress in this developmental area.

Here’s why it matters: mirror neurons. 

These brain cells fire both when we act and when we observe someone else acting. That means your calm presence teaches more than any lecture ever could.

So, show them what calm looks like:

• Offer empathy and validation.

• Use simple statements like:

  • “That didn’t go as you planned.”

  • “I’m right here with you.”

When there is no threat of punishment or disapproval (even when aggression shows up), the child’s brain can relax and actually learn.

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