Time In Vs Time Out

When I started nannying, time out was my ultimate go-to. I threatened it, and I followed through. Most of the time it made things worse.

After a little research I soon learnt time out has been used historically as a shaming form of social exclusion. It is emotionally painful and is used in the hope of deterring the unwanted behaviour, usually to little or no effect.

During time out the child receives the message;

"Go away from me, I don't want you in my presence, my love is conditional,

and right now you don't deserve it".