Jessie Buttons, also known as The New Zealand Super Nanny, is a Teacher, Speaker and Behaviour Consultant.
Jessie trained and worked as a pre-school teacher, then traveled the world for many years working as a nanny for high-profile families.
Positioned as the nanny to many children of different ages, cultures and personalities, she witnessed a diverse range of parenting practices and daily behavioural challenges. Her toolbox of strategies grew.
Before returning home to New Zealand, Jessie spent three years in Sydney, managing a Montessori Pre-school, where the framework for learning is child-led. That is, children have the freedom to learn and explore in their own way, motivated by their individual preferences.
This confirmed her ideas that children are happier and learn faster when they are in an environment that suits their nature.
After returning to New Zealand, and constantly witnessing parents who were struggling with their children’s behaviour, Jessie was inspired to make a change.
She began consulting with families and researching further into why children behave the way they do, resulting in this easy to read book about the four different Natures of Children, and how best to support them.
She has an amazing ability to inspire and coach Parents and Nannies, helping them to come to a new level of understanding.
Jessie has the experience and skills to guide parents to the solutions they need to make real changes that create lasting success.
Who is Jessie Buttons? Click HERE for a short video
"I have always loved babies and toddlers, but it wasn't until I Nannied overseas that I realised how much POWER children have over their parents!
I began consulting with Parents and helping them with their children’s behaviour in London in 2008.
I was known as the 'No Nonsense Nanny' and I used all of the 'Super Nanny's discipline techniques - from time-outs to reward charts, removing privileges and dealing out consequences.
Unfortunately, more often than not, those techniques failed to work long term. In fact, they made the behaviour worse!
I started to see the after effects of adult-imposed punishments on the children's' emotional intelligence and sense of self-worth. I realised Parents were trying to make children behave better by making them feel worse!
I had to change my focus. I knew I needed to develop my own Super Nanny techniques.
I began looking beyond the challenging behaviour and into who that child really was (their temperament).
I noticed a pattern of differences across four distinct natures, each requiring a different response to unwanted behaviours.
Further research led me to find that a change in behaviour occurred when the temperament of the child was recognised and nurtured. That is, when the environment supported the nature of the child, they grew happier and more cooperative.
I developed a method of nurturing each nature in order promote cooperation. It worked so well, and so instantly people kept suggesting - Jessie, you need to write a book! So I did.
Since then, I have had great success working with parents struggling to cope, giving them insight into why children behave the way they do, and what they can do about it.
My first step includes identifying the child's nature and pin pointing any needs of that nature that have not been met. This information will fundamentally change how you respond your children.
The second step is looking at any challenging behaviours, and the child's under-developed skills causing those behaviours, such as:
Conflict resolution (respectful debating skills)
Grace and courtesy skills
Appreciating how their behavior is affecting others
Persisting on challenging or tedious tasks
Deviating from rules or routines, and
Inflexible/inaccurate interpretations/cognitive distortions (I am stupid)
Finally, I show parents how these skills can be taught very simply, resulting in cooperation and connection in the family.
If you feel like you are missing something in your parenting tool box, please get in touch.
I have so much to share".